274 How Stories Shape Our Perception Of Self
The stories we carry tend to shape us for as long as we carry them. Whether these stories are helpful or harmful, it is our perception of them as we go through life that changes our sense of self into either our authentic selves or a false self.
In this episode Sarah Elkins and Amir Fathizadeh discuss the importance of authenticity, and modeling ideals that are in alignment with our authentic self for those around us and to create an environment where people can be empowered to become their own authentic selves.
Highlights
Becoming the person you need to be despite not having that person modeled for you.
The stories we tell ourselves to justify our actions and why it is so vital to unlearn these harmful behaviors.
We can’t protect ourselves or our loved ones from the world, which is why it’s so important to ensure that your loved ones and yourself have healthy supportive relationships and open lines of communication.
Quotes
“Being able to see something for themselves that they couldn't see before, and when they see it something new opens up. A new possibility opens up.”
“When you are coaching you really have to be in deep listening, and putting myself in the other person's shoes to really get their world. And sometimes I just ask, which way will be most productive, or the best way to route this, because in coaching you don't really have a specific direction to go and it's all inquiry. And it's amazing, something always comes to me when I put myself there and I always have the answer.”
“When you're authentic there is no pretense, there's no attachment, this is to know who you are, you are free to talk, you're free to express, you're free to be yourself.”
Dear Listeners it is now your turn,
What stories are you holding onto that are creating negative patterns in your life? And who is in your life that you can share those stories with where they can ask you those questions, maybe to reframe them and also to find the evidence that contradicts the cycle? I hope you find your story today and make a change tomorrow.
And, as always, thank you for listening.
About Amir
Amir Fathizadeh, author, speaker and program leader who has led life changing programs in North America and Canada to thousands of people. He devotes his unique approach and methodology with a commitment to make a difference for business owners, managers and CEOs. Amir is a certified professional business coach, personal and life coach and is also certified in emotional intelligence. Amir has delivered programs in Leadership, Relationships, Communication, Emotional Intelligence, 6 Myths, and How to win in business with great rate of success for the last 20 years. With his extensive background, Amir is able to guide CEOs, business owners and managers discover their blind spots and take their businesses to a new level. Amir’s focus has been on Communication, Relationships and Leadership and often speaks at the high schools, training and empowering students to overcome their views and how to become a better leader in their family, school, social life and the leaders of tomorrow.
Amir has been board member for many organizations. His book Gossip, The Road to Ruin has been receiving lots of attention:
Stop the spread! Gossip…..Amir Fathizadeh, prominent personal and business improvement expert discusses how to stop gossip before it builds up a head of steam and sows its seeds of destruction. A genius on the topic, his methods works wonders in fostering an atmosphere of positive interpersonal communication within business environment, families, circles of friends, social groups and organizations. His new book, Gossip, The Road to Ruin is a must read if you want to know how to end the vicious cycle.
Check out Amir’s website Coaching Collaborative!
Connect with Amir through his LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram!
About Sarah
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.
Be sure to check out the Job Interview Storytelling Course as well to make sure you nail that next interview!